Have you seen Silver Linings Playbook, yet? I would LOVE to hear what you thought of it. I totally enjoyed it. I smiled that goofy smile that you smile when something makes you REALLY happy. I laughed out loud. No, seriously, I LAUGHED OUT LOUD. I also tried to hide the fact that I was sobbing like crazy from my husband – who I happened to be on a date with that night.
If you haven’t seen the movie . . . you really really should!
Now I’m going to give you a little bit of a spoiler – but I don’t consider it a REAL spoiler because I’m pretty sure they show it in one of the trailers for the movie. If I don’t tell you about it, though, the rest of this post won’t have a place to start. So, here it goes.
Bradley Cooper’s character, Pat, ends up in a mental institution serving a court appointed sentence (maybe that’s the wrong word but you understand) because he pleads insanity as his defense after he beats the crap out of a guy he finds in the shower with his wife one afternoon when he comes home early from work. That’s what causes his “break-down” in the movie. That’s what makes his world fall apart.
So, on the way home, Jerry and I started talking about what our reactions would be if we found the other one in the shower with someone else . . . presumably of the opposite sex.
Jerry believes that his reaction would be very similar to Pat’s reaction. I don’t doubt it one bit. I could see him “losing it” and someone being seriously hurt when all was said and done. When men are “betrayed” their first reaction is often anger . . .
My reaction wouldn’t be the same. I’ve never been like Snookie or J-Wow (it is J-Wow, right?) on Jersey Shore. I could never imagine myself getting violent even in that situation. What would I do? I’d probably get as far away as I possibly could and cry. When women are “betrayed” their first reaction is often hurt . . .
We went even further to talk about what we would do afterwards . . . how we would feel. Jerry said he would be angry for a long time. He wasn’t sure he would be able to forgive me. I said I would be sad for a long time and that I would want to know what I did wrong. Why?
I did a little research and discovered these 4 reasons that makes it easy for me to understand:
Women never put themselves first. We take care of our husbands and children. They would fall apart without us (or at least that’s what we think).
Women worry about things they can’t even control. I worry about the weather. I worry about what someone else might say. I worry about if people like me or my family. I worry too much.
Women believe that saying “no” isn’t loving. I like to make people happy. I like them to know that I appreciate them and that they are important to me. I feel like saying “no” is like saying, “I don’t like you” and that isn’t true. I’m not sure how I can get past that but I know it’s not good for me.
Women tend to reflect and analyze actions more. I do this ALL the time. I will look at my Dad and say, “What’s wrong?” because he has a “look” on his face. It drives him NUTS. Once, he responded a little bit “snippy” with – “Quit asking me” so I, of course, assumed it was me. I was way more upset than I should have been.
I’m not saying that ALL women do ALL of these things. I’m sure there are even women out there who don’t do ANY of these things. However, if you feel guilty a lot . . . it could be because you do some or most of these things.
For the most part, Jerry and I are EXTREMELY happy. The problems we have aren’t anything that we can’t handle together and neither one of us has any plans on taking showers with anyone else (besides each other . . . maybe). That isn’t to say that we don’t still have our moments.
When we do have those days we react in a fairly textbook ways. He gets mad and I get sad. We don’t talk until I can’t take it anymore (I ALWAYS “cave” first) and then I end up crying and he ends up saying he’s sorry. Then . . . we are fine.
I’ll take that.
How would you react? Seriously, what would you do if you found your significant other in the shower with someone else when you came home early? Would you have to plead insanity when all was said and done?
Let us know or just let us know what you thought of the movie, if you saw it. It was honestly one of the best I’ve seen in a while!
Until Next Time,
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